Do You Want to Change Your Life?

First You Should Learn to Control Your Fear!

Most people think that they need to do something to change their lives. They are tired of their current situation and the problems they have. They want to do something and they know that they have to do something but they can’t.

They know that their jobs are not sufficient for them and they can find a better job with a higher payment,if they learn a little more, sign up for a training course, take a risk and act. But they never act.

Why? What is the origin of all these delays and hesitations?

Fear!

We have learned to live with fear. We fear to move, to change, to act because we think it is risky to change the situation and we may lose what we have. Most people know that their current situation is too bad and they can easily change it if they want but they don’t do it just because they are afraid of new things and changes.



Fear is the biggest obstacle in our lives. I have seen many people who were so good in many things but they have been stopped by their fear. Whereas many others who have not been better, but acted better, moved and improved just because they ignored their fear or knew how to control it.

For the first time in you life, just sit and think for a few minutes.

Was there anything that you wanted to do to change your life but you hesitated and preferred to stay away because you were fearful to be faced with unexpected and new things that you might be faced with?

How many times have you decided to start learning something new to increase your income but you hesitated?

How many times have you decided to start your own business but you didn’t do it just because you were afraid of failure or bankruptcy?

How many times you decided to create your own product to sell but you preferred not to do it just because you thought that nobody will buy it or if they buy, they will return it because of the poor quality?

Do you think that all of those who have a product and are successful are better than you and their products are perfect and complete? Do you think that everybody who buys their products will love them and never return them? Do you think that their competitors don’t try to defeat them and kick them out of the game?

Or maybe you think that they have never failed and never experienced a bankruptcy? You should know that many of the most successful businesses became bankrupt at least two times before they become successful.

I know a wealthy businessman who has become bankrupt twice. The first time, he became bankrupt because his accountant betrayed him. He not only lost all he had but he was also jailed. When he was jailed, he kept on joking and laughing in the way that the other jailers thought that he got crazy because of his shocking bankruptcy.

But he says he explained that he was happy because he knew that all the wealth and money he had was made through his intelligence and efforts. That was true that he lost his money but he was still intelligent and hard-working and he could become wealthy again.

And he was true. He became wealthy again and then became bankrupt for the second time but was able to recover the loss again and now he is very wealthy.

What would fearful people do if they were him?

They would have never become wealthy and even if they would just because their lottery ticket won, they could never get up again after the bankruptcy.

He doesn’t have any fear because he believes in himself and his abilities. You have fear because you don’t believe in yourself and you think that you can not. You think that you’d better to stay away from any challenge.

I know another guy who has been suffering from his fear in his life and so he is still the same person that he was 30 years ago. He makes me surprised sometimes.
Even he doesn’t have any courage to sign up for a free account in a free website just because he is afraid of receiving spam emails. He has a lot of fear to surf the websites because he think that they may steal his identity or his computer becomes contaminated by a virus.

What should you do if this is your problem too?

Well. It is very easy. Do something that you have been afraid of doing it. Don’t worry. You will not die. The world will not be destroyed.

I don’t say go and jump off the cliff. This is what that everybody is afraid of.

But you can …

- Sign up for a training course related to your job or something that you always loved to learn.

- Write a book and publish it.

- Write an article and submit it to the article directories or ask some newspapers, magazine or blogs publish it.

- Start a website or weblog.

- Buy a digital camera, take photos from people and natural scenes and send the photos to your friends or make a weblog and post the photos on it.

- Pick up the phone and call the person that you loved for a long time but didn’t dare to let him/her know.

- Break up with the friend or relative who you always hated and was hurt by him/her.

- Call the old friend who is upset with you and ask him/her to accept your apologies.

- Start learning the an investment business like forex, open an account with a broker and start trading.

The more you wait and don’t act, the harder it will be to act.

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